April 30, 2020
Worrying can be very time-consuming and it can lead to a lot of anxiety. I have been guilty myself of constantly thinking about the what-ifs in what I call analyzing a situation completely. But something I have learned is that worrying can be one-sided often and we worry about the negatives of a potential situation or decision but we never think about the positives. The opposite of that what-if situation. What if I try something new and I am successful at it? What if I try this and I love it? What if I start this project and it is my new passion and leads to many more open doors?
Worrying and anxiety can be negative but I encourage you to flip it and focus on the positives. If you are like me and struggle with flipping worry/ anxiety from the negative to positive, I have created a list of tips of things that I found have worked for me that I think can work for you.
The first step to flipping the negative to a positive is catching the thought in action. Sometimes we can think negatively so easily that it is second nature but I challenge you when you have those negative thoughts to pause and say to yourself, “Is this thought helping me be productive? Is this thought helping get from point A to point B successfully? Is it rational? Is this thought helping me complete my daily tasks?” If you answered “No” to any of those questions then, I encourage you to change that thought into something positive. For example, If you are worried about not being in control of events happening now or in the future, you can think to yourself, “I am going to actively live in the moment, I am going to enjoy this time I have right now spending time with my loved ones. You can focus on optimism, a great way to do that is to find an affirmation or mantra that speaks to you and repeat it every morning. Here at Deserved Happiness, we have affirmation cards suitable for any and everyone of all ages. Our affirmation cards can be found here.
The second step would be to view your thoughts with this philosophy “act on it, file it, or throw it away.” When it comes to your worries you can do one of three options: decide to address the issue right then; if you can't do anything about it at the moment, give yourself a time to address it later; or decide that it is not important and let it go. I find this way of thinking to be very helpful in identifying the rational from irrational thoughts, productive from unproductive thoughts.
Lastly, A way to ease worrying would be to connect with yourself. You can do this through meditation, relaxation, or creativity. Practicing deep breathing techniques can aid you in connecting with yourself. Or simply finding your creative outlet and doing something that eases your mind off of all the things creating worry in your life.
I hope you have found these tips helpful. Practice optimism, meditation, and try to actively change your negative thoughts to positive.
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